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Wednesday, August 23rd, 2006

Posted by:p3rseph0ne82.
Time:7:48 pm.
So is this community dead, or what?
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Monday, December 13th, 2004

Subject:crossposted everywhere
Posted by:wishfire.
Time:12:23 pm.
Telemarketers are about to be able to call your cell phone. Here is the link to register your phone #'s on the national "No Call" list

https://www.donotcall.gov/default.aspx
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Saturday, October 30th, 2004

Posted by:wishfire.
Time:3:20 am.
Well since nobody else is posting here I think I will put a pic of me up..

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Saturday, September 4th, 2004

Posted by:wishfire.
Time:3:00 am.
Score Love Language
4 Words of Affirmation
10 Quality Time
0 Receiving of Gifts
7 Acts of Service
9 Physical Touch


How to interpret your Profile Score:

Your highest score indicates your primary love language. Your second highest score indicates your secondary love
language. If two scores are identical, you are bilingual (you have two primary love languages). If the scores of your
primary and your secondary language are close (for example, 10 & 9 respectfully), it indicates both are important to
you. Whatever a significant other does to express love in either of these languages will get emotional points with you.
The highest possible score for any language is 12.

Having a clear picture of your primary & secondary love languages will explain much of your past behavior Think back
over the past and ask yourself "What have I most often requested from significant others?" Chances are your answer
will lie within the scope of your primary & secondary love languages. You have been requesting that which would meet
your deepest need for emotional love.

take the Languages of love test (opens in a new window)
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Wednesday, September 1st, 2004

Posted by:wishfire.
Time:10:11 am.
Hello everybody. Just wanted to say that My wife and I have a wonderful date this last weekend. Completely kid free night. Yaay.

What does every one here like to do when they go out on a date?

I like to go to a resaraunt. Then catch a movie or something of the sort. This weekend we went to Thai Tradition, the best crab rangoons in town. Then we went out to Pleasures for a while. Had no idea till we got there that they can go completely nude now. It was interesting to say the least. The rest of the night is for us, all I can say is that I love Enigma.
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Saturday, August 14th, 2004

Subject:Color scheme
Posted by:hallvarth.
Time:8:20 pm.
Is it just me, or is the color scheme for this community the worst possible? I have a hard time reading the text.
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Thursday, July 29th, 2004

Posted by:wishfire.
Time:12:18 pm.
Hello all. Just wondering how everyone here is doing?

Myself, I am doing pretty good.. wildernes_chick is going out of town next weekend with her OSO to get a new car from her father for her. There are some jealousy or envy issues there but I am dealing with them.

Anyway, How are you all?
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Thursday, July 22nd, 2004

Posted by:wishfire.
Time:10:44 am.
I found this article in the comments of another on polyamory. It really is a good article and I hope to learn from it. I will be re-reading it a couple of times....


Adding A Co-wife
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Sunday, July 18th, 2004

Posted by:wishfire.
Time:5:59 am.
Ok.... Time for a new topic of the week........

Your ideal relationship dynamic.

In all honesty my ideal is a triad. Myself and two wives... As my wife has just left to go be with her husband for a few hours I don't think this is possible. Which is ok. One day I will find a girl that is ok with me being married.....
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Wednesday, July 14th, 2004

Subject:Jealousy.... The good, bad, and ugly....
Posted by:wishfire.
Time:3:36 pm.
Ok first of all I am one that suffers severely of being jealous and envious. So what I say here will be in my opinion while I do not always practise what I will preach, I am trying to get there....

Jealousy can be really good... It can help to show what is lacking in one relationship that you didn't even know wasn't there.... ie, if you go out with one partner all the time but just stay home with another, that can cause jealousy and envy. And while sometimes it is this persons fault that you end up staying home it can still cause the issues.... As a matter of fact it can cause worse issues, but we aren't going into that here.... What the jealousy and envy do though, is give you the chance to look at yourself and say "Ok that is why I am getting jealous/envious. Are these feelings valid? Of course they are. All feelings are valid.. But look at the reasons for the feelings. Are they valid reasons? If they are then of course it is time to change something so that you can eliminate what is causing the jealous feelings... Granted, I am still having a very hard time of doing all this myself...

SO basically if you look into yourself and you relationship you can determine a better course of action to take care of jealousy/envy... If you ignore it or push it under the rug that little green monster grows an grows until it is at a point where you can no longer control it...

So jealousy/envy can be good they can also be really bad... And it is mostly in the way we react or act to them that is the good or bad.....

There ya go.. My opinions on this issue.... And being an introvert I am working on getting myself to where I react in the good way instead of the bad... However being an introvert tends to make that a little difficult.... And sometimes we all need reminded of that... Not that it is difficult, but rather that it can be done........
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Tuesday, July 13th, 2004

Subject:New Topic
Posted by:wishfire.
Time:1:38 pm.
Topic donated by fireangel_999

Is jealousy good or bad? When is it good and when is it bad?
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Subject:Why I became poly
Posted by:koikana.
Time:2:33 am.
Mood: mellow.
I've started and deleted about five paragraphs now, and I'm still not sure my truthful answer to this question. Part of that is because I'm not moody but my moods and ideals shift rapidly (I swear there's a difference) so what is right today won't be right tomorrow, and my first poly experience was over five years ago and I'm not sure of my feelings or intentions then.

My first real boyfriend was nice and caring, if a little over demanding sexually, and I loved him, but in a carefree, easy come easy go way. His brother was my best friend, and while they weren't particularly close they dealt with the fact that I loved his brother more than I did my boyfriend, but had no sexual attraction to him. At the time it just seemed like they were one entity, two different personalities but the same, and I went to one with problems and the other for comfort, and cuddled one and did more with the other. It wasn't really discussed, and I think talking about it would have ruined it.

I think the explanation that makes the most sense to me is that I'm poly simply because I'm intellectual and cannot have one man-or woman- in my life... monogamy seems to be more of a tradition stemming from instinctual *this is mine* tendencies than having any real basis, except that lots of people can't handle poly relationships. I think that most people who do work out a poly relationship do it because they love the people they simply like to be around, and don't worry about their own needs but their lover's.
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Sunday, July 11th, 2004

Subject:On Topic
Posted by:wishfire.
Time:8:27 am.
Since I posted the topic I will start with why I choose this path for me.....

I have always wanted something of a poly relationship but never knew of poly....

Behind the cutCollapse )
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Subject:New topic
Posted by:wishfire.
Time:8:00 am.
I would like to put in a new topic for now.....

Why we all choose to be involved in Polyamorous relationships......
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Thursday, July 8th, 2004

Subject:Introductions
Posted by:koikana.
Time:9:33 pm.
Mood: bored.
Well, I actually live two feet over the Wichita city line, but I was in a poly relationship. It didn't work out, not because of the other relationships but because he was horrible with money and my other beau was kind of boring when you got passed the sex. But the group seems very interesting!
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Wednesday, July 7th, 2004

Subject:New Here
Posted by:ex_fireangel472.
Time:4:46 pm.
Mood: annoyed.
Hi all...

I am new to this community as well as to polyamory and relatively new to wichita as well! I have been with my husband for 7 years, married 3.5 years (the second time we married each other). We started out each seeing a person and the relationship my husband was having with my friend fell apart, along with our friendship. That's a long and torrid story in and of itself. We are still reeling from that one. (insert scene from "Fatal Attraction" here where Glen Close won't f***ing die and pops out of the bathtub) Pardon my french. Anyhoo, I am dating a wonderful man right now and so far there have been no probs whatsoever in that area. I wish there were more poly people to hang out with in Wichita but there don't seem to be too many.
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Posted by:wishfire.
Time:11:55 am.
Ok, since I put up the topic I guess I should at least post about it......

My wife, wildernes_chick and I are in a polyamorous relationship. She Has been married toi me for five years now. A few years back she met my old friends and developed a relationship with them. And while we have gone through some hard times and I still have a hard time with some things we are still here. She has two husbands Myself and her husband of two years.

There are a lot of times that I get jealous about things and feel inadaquate. But I am trying to work through that. I know that she loves me no less because she loves him. And I love her no less....

I guess that my biggest problem is that I don't feel attractive. It has always been difficult for me to find women that don't want to just be friends with me.

Anyway this is just the tip of things that are here... I hope others will share and we can all learn and grow together....
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Friday, July 2nd, 2004

Posted by:wishfire.
Time:12:11 pm.
Please let me know what you think of the layout here.... I am working on it and what to get it to where it is pleasing to the eye of as many as I can....
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Posted by:wishfire.
Time:11:01 am.
That Old Question ...
CHILD: Dad, where did I come from?
DAD: Okay, we had to have this conversation some day!.. Listen...
Dad and mom met in a chat room on the net. I set up a meeting with
yourmom and we landed in the bathroom at the Cyber Café. Then, mom did
some downloads from dads memory stick and when dad was ready to upload,
we discovered that there was no firewall. Seeing that it was a bit too
late to cancel, I just carried on doing the upload. Nine months later,
the damn virus appeared!.
CHILD: Huh?
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Thursday, July 1st, 2004

Posted by:wishfire.
Time:9:42 am.
If you are in a multiple relationship situation tell us about it.....
Or let us know your feelings about it..
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